At the heart of counselling is a relationship that focuses on you.
Counselling is about acceptance, trust and empathy and offering you a safe space to explore whatever you most need to. From this relationship, new possibilities and perspectives can emerge as we work together to make the changes you choose. It is my intention to see and hear the uniqueness of you, built on my fundamental belief in your capacity for growth and well-being.
Talking about experiences and feelings is a hugely important part of counselling. Being seen and heard for who we are can be very enabling and often what we most need. Sometimes, however, we can get stuck in old patterns that are out-dated and are no longer helping us. Being open, curious and creative in the present moment can often breathe life into stuckness or pain and allow us to engage in new ways of being.
Every relationship between a client and counsellor is unique and I use a flexible approach to adapt to the needs of each individual. The direction we take will be created between us and we are likely to explore some of the following:
We may explore the stories and narratives of your life; untangling different threads to get clearer about who you are, the sense and meaning you've made of your life so far, and how you want to move forward.
We might look at the emotional wounds and patterns you've developed to protect yourself and to cope with or avoid pain. Allowing feelings you have not been able to feel can bring greater freedom, choice and flexibility in your present life.
For some people, using mindfulness or creativity can be an important part of their process. For others, using a mind-body approach called 'brainspotting' can be a very powerful way to release pain, trauma and emotions trapped in the deep brain and body.
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am,
then I can change"